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Theme · Treatment and medication
Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93The moment before you snap 88Choosing your response 81Get started 74Grounding and settling 71Treatment and medication 71Moving your body 71Equanimity and perspective 68Feelings and focus 66Your sense of time 66Cool the body first 65Staying regulated in conflict 65What ADHD actually is 65Touch and bodywork 65Screens and attention 62The fear underneath anger 61Exercise, food and other supports 61Bringing the future closer 60Food, caffeine and fuel 59When everything feels flat 54Practising under provocation 46The cost of avoiding 44Structure and routine 36Growing empathy 36Breathing 35Shame and stigma 35What worry does 34Reading, numbers and learning differences 34Making it stick 33Treatment and medication 31Being seen and judged 30Emotions as signals 30Tolerate distress 27Remembering to do it 27Knowing your partner 25Feeling from the inside 25Breaking the worry loop 24Answering bids 24When you use something to cope 24Facing it a step at a time 24What you are actually defending 24Shame 19Repair after rupture 19Obsessions and compulsions 18Shared spiritual life 17Rebuilding trust 17Righteous anger and perfectionism 17Fondness and admiration 15When anger turns to harm 15Affection and touch 15Rituals of connection 13Posture and how you carry yourself 13Listening and understanding 13Self-compassion 12Question the thought 11Use your strengths 10Gratitude 9Anger, alcohol and the body 8When you go numb 7Living with uncertainty 5Panic and the body 5Rest and pacing 5Meaning after harm 4Letting it out safely 4Safety and grounding 4Let the wave come 3Your worth is not conditional 3Working with anger 3Calm the body 3Name what you feel 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Act on your values 3Listen to the body 2Face it gently 2Help someone grieving 2Validate yourself and others 2Patience and trust 2Care for yourself in loss 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Ride the urge 2Work with your brain 2Get it out of your head 2Ask and say no well 2Find meaning 2Your window of tolerance 2
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What a person expects from a treatment genuinely changes what they get from it. That is not a trick to be exploited, and it is not nothing either.

In some trials the dummy treatment helps around half the people who receive it, and there is work showing benefit even when people were told outright…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

The point of treatment is not a tidier score on a questionnaire. It is fewer accidents, a finished course, work that holds, relationships that survive, a longer and better life.

Symptoms are worth reducing because of what they do downstream, and that is where the goal should be set. It changes what you review, too. Instead of…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 9:105

After a working lifetime in this field, Barkley names the change in how a family sees the child as the most important step of all. Not the medication, not the charts.

The reason is practical rather than sentimental. Every other part of treatment asks parents to keep going for weeks with very little to show for it,…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 13:11

The point of explaining ADHD to a parent is to produce a particular kind of parent: one who is kind about it, quick to forgive the day's failures, and willing to make a nuisance of themselves at school.

Those three are results, not manners. Harsh days breed pushing back, pushing back breeds harsher days, and that loop is the main road from ADHD to a…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

Being told ADHD is largely inherited can sound like being told nothing can be done. It does not follow, and the two questions are separate ones.

How much of something a person shows, day to day, moves a good deal with what is around them, even when the underlying trait is strongly heritable.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 12:87

A child can be almost trouble free with a grandparent who has all afternoon for them, and impossible in a class of twenty five. Same child, same condition, very different demand.

What a setting asks for is the ratio between the self control a person has to supply and the structure being supplied for them. One adult, close…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 94:5

Treatment is not only about school reports. Lower rates of accidental injury and of other serious harms are reasons in their own right, even for a child whose marks are perfectly fine.

This is the answer to the question about the bright child who is coping academically and whose impulsivity worries you in traffic, on a bike, or…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:195

Untreated ADHD is not free. It turns up in appointments, in repeat trips to A and E, in school reports and in lost work, and the bill lands on the family either way.

So when the cost of treatment is the reason for waiting, it is worth adding up what is already going out, in money and in hours and in the things…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:28

Gathering disruptive children into one room to learn social skills leaves about a quarter of them worse than before. They pick things up from each other far faster than from the adult at the front.

This is not a reason to give up on helping a child socially. It is a reason to look hard at who else is in the group before you accept a place in it.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationCoreQur’an 2:195

The warning about group social skills work is about loud, disruptive children. A quiet, anxious child who simply has not had much practice with other children is a different case, and a gentle group may be exactly right.

So the question is not whether groups work, but which child is sitting in front of you. If the difficulty really is inexperience, a group offers…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationCoreQur’an 49:6

If therapy for ADHD did little for your thirteen year old, that is not a sign they were not trying. The self monitoring it leans on is still being built at that age, and it builds later in ADHD than in most.

The practical reading is about timing rather than willingness. Younger teenagers usually do better when the adults around them change the setup at…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationCBTQur’an 65:3

Play based programmes that build executive skills in young children have done reasonably well with children at risk of struggling at school. None has yet been tested in children actually diagnosed with ADHD, and that is a real difference rather than a technicality.

Results found in a broad at risk group tend to shrink, sometimes to nothing, when the same thing is tried with clinically diagnosed children, where…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:114

Showing a teenager live pictures of activity in one targeted part of their own brain has been tried once, in a small trial, and it looked encouraging. That was around a dozen young people, and nobody has repeated it yet.

This is worth knowing about mainly so you can tell it apart from the neurofeedback that is widely sold. The clinic version reads surface brain…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:43

There is a headband worn at night that stimulates a nerve in the face, cleared by regulators and tested against a dummy version in a single trial. Some children improved. Some felt sick or slept badly and stopped.

Regulatory clearance answers whether a device is safe enough to be sold, not whether it beats what you are already doing. One trial, funded by the…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 39:9

Magnetic stimulation of the brain has been tried for ADHD and has not yet shown anything. The studies are small, often single cases, and not built in a way that could give a trustworthy answer.

Small uncontrolled studies are generous places. Hope, attention and the freedom to report only the good parts all push results upwards. That does not…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:7

Two of the three big advances in ADHD over recent decades were not new treatments at all. They were clearer thinking about what the difficulty actually is, and honest accounting of what psychological treatment can and cannot deliver.

Understanding ADHD as a problem of self regulation rather than a shortage of attention changed what help gets aimed at. Knowing which psychosocial…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 10:57

Medication does not make somebody care more. It narrows the distance between meaning to do the thing and doing it, and that distance is exactly what the other person has been feeling as being let down.

It helps a couple enormously to have the right name for what has been happening. The intention was real every single time. What went missing was the…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 48:17

People who use several kinds of help tend to report more benefit than people relying on one. Medication, therapy, coaching, reading, sleep and movement all seem to add something rather than compete.

That turns a hard conversation into an easier one. Instead of pressing a reluctant partner towards the single thing they least want, you can offer a…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Managing the ADHD is not the goal. Being happy together is the goal, and the ADHD work is only worth doing to the extent that it gets you there.

Keeping that order straight changes the atmosphere of the whole effort. A partner who has spent years being a project stops being one. Requests stop…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

Two ideas will let you judge most claims for yourself. In a good trial nobody involved knows who got the real treatment, and a study of five people can be swung by one of them having a good month.

Researchers want their treatment to work, and that hope leaks into how they rate what they see, which is why the person handing out the pill and the…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:36

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