Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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66 practices

Your sense of time Clear all

How long you have

A minute 17 Five minutes 38 Twenty minutes 10 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 64 Someone I care about 60 Me 58 My husband or wife 3

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 40 Struggling right now 15 Getting ready for something 11

On your own, or with someone

On my own 52 Involves someone else 11 Both of us together 3

Theme · Your sense of time

Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 74 Moving your body 71 Treatment and medication 71 Grounding and settling 71 Equanimity and perspective 68 Feelings and focus 66 Your sense of time 66 What ADHD actually is 65 Touch and bodywork 65 Cool the body first 65 Screens and attention 62 Exercise, food and other supports 61 The fear underneath anger 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Bringing the future closer 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 When everything feels flat 54 Practising under provocation 46 The cost of avoiding 44 Growing empathy 36 Structure and routine 36 Breathing 35 Shame and stigma 35 Reading, numbers and learning differences 34 What worry does 34 Making it stick 33 Treatment and medication 31 Emotions as signals 30 Being seen and judged 30 Remembering to do it 27 Tolerate distress 27 Feeling from the inside 25 Knowing your partner 25 Facing it a step at a time 24 What you are actually defending 24 When you use something to cope 24 Breaking the worry loop 24 Answering bids 24 Repair after rupture 19 Shame 19 Obsessions and compulsions 18 Righteous anger and perfectionism 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Fondness and admiration 15 When anger turns to harm 15 Affection and touch 15 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Rituals of connection 13 Listening and understanding 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 When you go numb 7 Panic and the body 5 Rest and pacing 5 Living with uncertainty 5 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Safety and grounding 4 Act on your values 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Calm the body 3 Name what you feel 3 Working with anger 3 Let the wave come 3 Help someone grieving 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Get it out of your head 2 Listen to the body 2 Ask and say no well 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Validate yourself and others 2

When

Any ordinary day 58 In a change 3 After a row 3 Under stress 2

A clock only counts if you can see it without doing anything. Behind you, in a pocket, behind a lock screen: that is not a clock, that is an errand.

Walk through the places where time actually disappears for you and put something visible in each one. The bathroom, the kitchen, the desk, the room…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 2:189

When you are sure something takes ten minutes, do not argue with yourself. Write down the guess, start a timer, and look at both afterwards.

Do it for the handful of jobs that keep wrecking your mornings: the shower, the email, the tidy before guests. Keep the numbers somewhere you can…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 23:113

Write the morning out in small steps with times against them and stick it where you will pass it. Bathroom finished by quarter past, clothes on by half past, at the table by twenty to.

A single hour before you leave is far too long an interval to monitor, so you find out you are late only when you are late. Broken into six pieces,…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 20:130

If the internal clock is not there, put clocks in the room. Somewhere the child can see without turning round, a timer on the desk, one on the wall by where they work.

Think of it as a prop rather than a cure. The aim is not to train an ability into existence before the child is allowed to cope, it is to let them…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 6:96

Take the Friday deadline and walk it backwards onto the days. What happens Monday, what happens Tuesday, written down where both of you can see it.

Children with this difficulty rarely generate the sequence themselves, and asking them to is asking for the thing that is hard. So supply it, on…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 36:38

Walking away from a course or a job that was never going to fit can be the sensible move rather than a failure of nerve. It is also frightening, particularly when other people are paying for it.

Fit does more work here than effort does. The person who cannot survive a rigid nine to five in an open plan office may be excellent somewhere with…

LongerYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 62:10

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