Practices

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Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93The moment before you snap 88Choosing your response 81Get started 74Moving your body 71Treatment and medication 71Grounding and settling 71Equanimity and perspective 68Feelings and focus 66Your sense of time 66Cool the body first 65Touch and bodywork 65What ADHD actually is 65Screens and attention 62Exercise, food and other supports 61The fear underneath anger 61Bringing the future closer 60Staying regulated in conflict 60Food, caffeine and fuel 59When everything feels flat 54Practising under provocation 46The cost of avoiding 44Growing empathy 36Structure and routine 36Breathing 35Shame and stigma 35What worry does 34Reading, numbers and learning differences 34Making it stick 33Treatment and medication 31Emotions as signals 30Being seen and judged 30Tolerate distress 27Remembering to do it 27Knowing your partner 25Feeling from the inside 25Breaking the worry loop 24What you are actually defending 24Facing it a step at a time 24When you use something to cope 24Answering bids 24Shame 19Repair after rupture 19Obsessions and compulsions 18Rebuilding trust 17Righteous anger and perfectionism 17Shared spiritual life 17Affection and touch 15Fondness and admiration 15When anger turns to harm 15Listening and understanding 13Posture and how you carry yourself 13Rituals of connection 13Self-compassion 12Question the thought 11Use your strengths 10Gratitude 9Anger, alcohol and the body 8When you go numb 7Panic and the body 5Living with uncertainty 5Rest and pacing 5Safety and grounding 4Letting it out safely 4Meaning after harm 4Name what you feel 3Your worth is not conditional 3Act on your values 3Calm the body 3Working with anger 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Let the wave come 3Ask and say no well 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Help someone grieving 2Validate yourself and others 2Work with your brain 2Your window of tolerance 2Face it gently 2Patience and trust 2Ride the urge 2Find meaning 2Care for yourself in loss 2Get it out of your head 2Listen to the body 2
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Paint the room is not a task. Fill the holes, tape the edges, buy the rollers, do one wall. That is four tasks, and each one ends.

A big undivided job sits in the head as one enormous demand, which is why looking at it tires you before you have lifted anything. Write the steps in…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 94:7

Promise yourself twenty minutes, or one podcast episode, rather than a finished result. Then the end is guaranteed however badly it goes.

Open ended unpleasant jobs are hard to walk into because you cannot see the far edge of them. A timer gives you one. Twenty minutes of receipts on…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 73:20

If a task gives you nothing, bring something to it. Ring the cousin you never speak to and paint while you talk. Do the filing beside a friend who has their own filing to do.

This is a design fix rather than a failure of discipline. Dull work asks your brain to stay somewhere that offers it no reason to stay. Pair it with…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 2:45

Go down the list and find the two items that have been sitting there for months. One of them needs doing this week. The other needs deleting, honestly and out loud.

A list full of things that never move quietly drains everything else on it, because you meet all of them each time you look. Clearing in either…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 39:10

Before treating something as your failure to get going, check whether you ever agreed it was yours. A job that bothers one person and genuinely does not bother the other has not been agreed by anybody.

That turns a stuck task back into a conversation, which is where it belongs. Say plainly that the unpainted wall does not trouble you, ask what it…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 5:48

Keep your clearest hours for the work that needs a clear head. Fold the laundry when you are half awake, not at ten in the morning when you have finally come alive.

Most of us have a window or two in the day when thinking is genuinely cheaper, and we spend it on email and tidying because those are easy to pick…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 20:26

Sitting exactly halfway between two options is its own kind of exhausting, and it produces nothing. If you have been weighing something for weeks, the weighing has quietly become the activity.

Give it a deadline and a method. One more week, the three things that matter most, and then you choose, knowing the choice will be imperfect. If you…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 20:25

When you are torn about something, get both sides out of your head and onto paper. Two columns, everything you can think of, no tidying as you go.

Holding both cases in mind at once is what wears you out, and it is why the same argument keeps starting from the beginning every evening. Once it is…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 20:114

Pick a system that is good enough, spend one evening on it at most, and then use it for a month without changing anything.

You can spend a very long time sharpening tools and never get round to the woodwork. An ordinary calendar used every day beats a beautiful one used…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 87:8

Sometimes the first job is working out what the job is. Go back to whoever asked, or spend twenty minutes finding out, and count that as the work it is.

Ask the plain questions: what is this for, who reads it, what matters most, how long should it be. People hold back because they feel they should…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 96:1

The other way through fog is to walk into it. Start badly, on purpose, and let the shape of the thing appear while you are working on it.

With some jobs you genuinely cannot know what you are doing until you are inside them, and waiting for clarity first just keeps you outside. Give…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 9:105

If the same three names keep coming up, compare those three and stop looking. Twenty options will not give you a better answer, only a later one.

Past a handful of choices, more searching adds very little while the cost of deciding keeps climbing, and if you are prone to circling it can stop…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 23:61

If reminders, other people's deadlines and a bit of chivvying are what keep you moving, you are allowed to keep them. Inner drive arrives later for some of us, and taking the scaffolding away early does not hurry it along.

Families often pull the supports back on a birthday, as though a certain age should switch on self-direction. What tends to happen is that the only…

LongerGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 73:20

If not knowing makes you itch, the work is learning to sit with the itch rather than making it go away. The plan can stay unfinished while you get on with today.

For some of us an unresolved question hums in the background until it is settled, and settling it becomes urgent even when nothing depends on it.…

LongerGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 94:8

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